Verbal abuse can be the hardest to recover from- believing otherwise when you’ve always been told you are worthless is extremely difficult.
Q:You are wonderful xxx
Anon love is so much cooler than anon hate! Thank you :D
Q:I relapsed last night after months of being clean and I really tried and I really did try to be okay and I screwed it all up
The thing to try remember here is that having one slip up doesn’t discount the fact that you’ve still been all those months without self harming, so it’s not like you’re starting over you’re just getting back on track.
Maybe to help yourself to think that way you could try doing something like a ‘star chart’ where for each day you go without self harm you get a star, & when you have a certain amount you get a reward of your choosing, & the more stars you get the better the reward.
I know it sounds kind of kiddish but the rewards could be things like clothing, jewellry, chocolate, a piercing or tattoo, an activity you enjoy, a night out with friends etc & that way you don’t feel like you have to start over & that your prior progress doesn’t count any more every time you do have a slip up (because those are bound to happen sometimes).
Plus it puts the emphasis on rewarding yourself for doing well rather than punishing yourself for making mistakes, which is far more pleasant & scientifically proven to be a more effective way of changing a behaviour!
Hope this helps a bit :)
It’s funny how while there’s a huge stigma behind having a mental illness, at the same time there’s so much stigma surrounding the psychiatric medications & treatments people use to try get rid of their mental health issues… That seems rather contradictory, do you expect mentally ill people to just cease to exist instead?
Stop comparing things to rape that are not rape.
Rape is a horrible thing for someone to experience and you comparing everything to rape isn’t helping you’re making the problem worse and even triggering people along the way.
"Leaking nudes is like rape" "He stared at her, he literally raped her" "Catcalling is literally rape"