it infuriates me when people tell me “lifes too short to not forgive people!” like NO lifes too short for me to continually allow abusive and manipulative behavior in my life and live in a constant state of anxiety bc I want to be “nice” or whatever
This little pup made me smile after the massive crying session I just had so thought I’d share it.
Q:So I was talking to my friend and he admitted to me that he has thoughts of raping or killing people and that there is some sort of thing telling him what to do I'm really worried for him and I told him to get help if he thinks things gets worse but I don't even know how to help him
I think the only thing you can do in a situation like this is continue to encourage him to seek professional help, as it’s really beyond the expertise of those of us that aren’t doctors.
Of course that might be easier said than done in this case because it’s not the type of thing he’d probably feel hugely comfortable opening up about, so it’s important you do so in a non-judgemental & non-pushy way, but rather as you’re coming from a place of concern for his wellbeing, which it sounds like you certainly are (& that in itself is helpful).
If he’s not feeling overly keen about going to a doctor with this at the moment, suggesting he contact a helpline via phone or online might be a good place to start as it is anonmynous for the most part & less confronting. Hopefully they would help persuade him to seek further help, at which point you could offer to go with him to drs appointments for support if he wanted you to.
Bear in mind however that you can’t help people that don’t want to be helped, & don’t hesitate to alert the police if you are seriously concerned he might harm someone (though I’m sure it won’t come to that).